Did you know that the number one fear, above dying, is speaking?
In other words, based on the survey’s taken people would rather die than speak in front of a crowd. Yet we do it every day.
We speak to our relatives on Zoom calls.
We speak in meetings with our colleagues on Zoom calls.
If you own your own business, you speak to clients every day.
Yet, many of us stay silent where we start to second guess our value or what we can bring to the conversation.
So, how do you learn to be heard amongst a crowd of talkers and very few listeners? According to one of the experts in the field of speaking, Julian Treasure, it comes down to several things.
One is what type of speaker are you.
The tone in your voice.
And how you present yourself.
His advice is to stay away from being these types of speakers or ones who fall into this category as many will simply tune you out.
The Gossiper
The Judger
Negative Nelly
The Complainer
The one with all the Excuses but never takes accountability
The Exaggerator
The one with all the Opinions instead of facts
Now the tone in your voice makes all the differences as well.
High falsetto causes us to shut our ears.
A monotoned voice causes us to simply fall asleep.
The best tone is a normal lower tone that exudes confidence.
If you find that your voice doesn’t resonate with others, you could invest in a voice coach.
Lastly, these are the traits that you want to exude when you speak to truly be heard.
Always be honest.
Be authentic by being yourself.
Have integrity when you talk.
Talk with love in your heart.
When you talk with love it’s difficult for most to not listen. You simply want to read the room and know who you are speaking to. Does this take practice, absolutely, but these are simple things to put in place to help you truly be heard at the office, with the family, with your partner…..the possibilities are endless.
Feel free to check out Julian Treasure’s TED talk for more details: https://www.ted.com/talks/julian_treasure_how_to_speak_so_that_people_want_to_listen
Here’s to your health.
Carolyn Osborn
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