There are 5 stages of grief:
Denial
Anger
Bargaining
Depression
Acceptance
Yet, many of us ignore the fact that grief can take over our lives like a cancerous sore, especially if this person or pet has left a gaping hole in your heart. Even though those around us say it will soon subside it seems never-ending. All we want is one more kiss, caress, or hug. We want them back so terribly that we begin to neglect ourselves.
You can’t eat
Sleepless nights become the norm
Getting out of bed hurts too much
Breathing becomes hard to do without the pain you feel in your heart
Your energy feels stuck, or you feel you don’t have enough to cope.
We all go through it one time or another. Granted it is not a pleasant experience, but is one of the biggest life lessons we can go through. Many of you may not see grief as a lesson but torture, and you would be right. But with the hurt and anguish, there also is light and compassion as this life lesson changes your perspective on the world.
You find more value in life as you realize how precious it is.
You live more in the moment and worry less about the past.
You treasure the little things in life.
You can discover and explore inner wisdom that you may not have known you have.
However wonderful life can be it can seem to be also very cruel if we allow ourselves to be caught up in that. This is why, even though it’s important to grieve, it is also as important to be able to move on. Yes, this can take weeks, months, and years to do, but it’s truly up to us when it’s time to accept the fact that even though our loved one is gone, they are still with us in memory, heart, and mind. The distance does not mean you will forget, but only come to remember them in a whole new light and cherish the moments you had together.
But how do you get to acceptance when you simply want to stay in bed and never get out? Even as there are 5 stages of grief there are also 5 stages of getting past this grief so that your life can move forward.
Give yourself time and accept the grieving process.
Talk to others and spend time with friends and family as they can help.
Return to your favorite hobbies or find something new to help you move forward.
Join a support group of others who can relate to your pain.
Above all, take care of yourself— and your energy.
When you can get past the loss— and you will— it can be very freeing as you allow yourself to live again and start to enjoy life. With every step of the process know that it will be up to you how quickly you get to acceptance and move on or not. Not only is grief a process so too is the healing process.
If you need extra assistance in helping you let go, I invite you to contact me, as I have many Energy Medicine techniques available to help you get through the grief and into a life of happiness again.
Much love during this time.
Carolyn Osborn
• • •
P.S. Our newest program Healing and the New Normal is designed to support you being able to move forward during these stressful times.
You can also gain knowledge about how energy medicine and intuitive messages can help us recognize and adjust to changes that are affecting us, as well as our animals. Even when we may not recognize it— there are messages your dogs, cats, horses and other pets wish they could tell you directly—as they seek to give you loving help. Chiron Energy Medicine offers several options.
See or learn more about our sessions and packages for people or animals here and our equine and performance sessions or packages here.
You may request an Introductory Consultation here.